Dating questions for successful relationships
"If your partner knows what triggers you to behave badly — and understands the pain that's motivating that behavior, then they can take a step back and acknowledge that the tension has nothing to do with them." "How are they currently managing it and how do they plan to pay it off?
But there are certain things about your partner and the relationship in general that you should know pretty early on.We have to talk about what's bugging us, what we want from the other, our dreams and disappointments. When you get home from work, what would you like me to do or say in the first few minutes? Who do we know that has the kind of intimacy that we want? What changes will I need to make in order for you to be really happy? Where will we be in this relationship five years from now? And we have to listen, really listen to what the other is saying. That means communication can't devolve into protecting your turf or being right. "Earlier, you mentioned 18 red flags; my friend only has two of them, so most don't apply to us." That may be true, but even one red flag could make the difference between a wise choice and a disaster when it comes to marriage.
With no disrespect to premarital surveys (I believe in their value), it would be nice if you could simply take a test, identify red flags and green lights, give them a number value, and calculate if you should move forward or not. Many people get married because of a fear of loneliness, of not having anymore chances in life to find love.When you are first in love, the boxers left on the floor are just adorable. But eventually, familiarity breeds, if not contempt, plenty of irritation.